The Conclusion of Online Dating Negativity

First I want to say, I learned a lot about myself with this project. At first I thought online dating was negative for my own opinionated reasoning, and the fake profiling, but in terms of fake profile,

1) Know who you’re talking to online

Some people join online dating sites as someone else, or just joke around. The example the guy from anonymous who humiliated that guy in NY,  there’s ways to find out if who he was talking to was real. Call the person, ask for some a lot of specificity. You’d rather not end up looking like the guys on MTV Catfish.

2) Be careful of who you talk to.

There’s no background checks on dating websites, so the person your talking to could be a criminal, or a sex offender.

Here’s a case where that happened

Fake profiling is part of the stigma that online dating gets and if we could get some awareness of safety  then online dating could a lot safer and thought of a bit more positively.

Now Stigma is another thing. There’s a few points I want to make about that.

1) Online dating isn’t for everyone,

A lot of people have their own opinions of online dating.  Examples like thinking that the people on there might be socially awkward, to whether they believe it’s better to offline, or etc. You shouldn’t bash on someone, who is using it. Lets say my professor likes to golf, and I don’t like to for my own reasons. I shouldn’t make fun of him, or be condescending towards him for playing it.  on someone who’s using it. On a positive note. From the research site Pew, Online dating is being more acceptable to people , who know someone that actually use it , who don’t prefer it.

Remember this video I showed?

2) Based on Pews research, Young people (ages 18-25) are more likely to experience the stigma

This age group isn’t as accepting of online dating as older age groups.   It has a lot to do with maturity, opinions, rumors, and as stated before, fake profiling.  On Pew’s research page, it showed that this age group is more likely to have bad experiences with online dating, and it goes with maturity. On the male side, we may harass people online, and the female group is more likely to raise their standards with all the attention they get.

Remember this guy who did research from the

It make sense for an older age group to have positive outcomes since they’re more mature and, there isn’t as much fake profiling.  Pew’s research shows that ages 18-25 use online dating to just flirt, but that’s more so with mobile dating apps like tinder.

To conclude, the only real negatives of online dating is fake profiling and the bad stigma it has. Like I said for fake profiling just know who you’re talking and be careful of who you talk to, and for stigma as more people accept what it it the stigma will go, but if you’re in the 18-25 year old age group then you’ll experience it more, but you shouldn’t let it defer you from trying it.

If you want to know surf like demographics and successes you can check out the research on pew’s website

Men that have trouble with women, or want tips, check out this site




Interesting things from Pew

First off I want to give a shout out thanks to Paul for showing me the site on the Washington post website. I went brain dead and read past the link to the original research page, but there’s a lot of interesting things in there. In terms of stigma, it relies more so on the age group and I can see why. Young people have many opinions and aren’t at the full maturity as older people.  I actually think the cyber bullying group can learn something from this because it seems that bullying is more tended towards teenagers than young adults.

Aside from stigma, The fake profiling, or the harassing of significant others comes more so also from the younger age group of people. I never really thought of it that way. based on the readings on the pew website, online dating is more acceptable to older people (ages 30-40) than younger people (ages 18-25). We say there’s stigma, but technically it’s more so in the younger generation.

If you want to check it out, it’s on the first page of the research. Expect more updates.

The A-R-P-A-net and more online dating updates

Hey. I’m back with more stuff. I found the last presentation on the Arpanet engaging. They made something I thought would be uninteresting be interesting. I was pretty amazed actually. The history of the internet is pretty unique. Nothing wrong with the presentation. Just include more details on topics, and it’s good.

More on the online dating is that I’ve found a video series based on dating advice, and he goes into the negatives of online dating why it doesn’t work, and the issues that come with it. I was surprised because it made sense.

If you took time to watch the video I have to say it reminds me of most girls who just attend college. Most of them never really talk to guys in high school and then when they get to college they tend to get a lot of attention making their standards go up.



Dating research and updates

Since my epic fail on my presentation, I took my professor’s advice and did a better thorough research. I heard a lot of how online dating had bad stigma, so I decided to branch off of that because The only real negative about online dating is fake profiling.  So with that, I actually wanted to see why it has so much bad stigma. I gave an example of how my friend didn’t want to admit he got his current girlfriend from an online dating website. I found that online dating is looked down upon for personal reasons. Most people feel like it’s better to find people offline, but feel it’s weird to date someone from a dating website.

Here’s the link

Here’s a couple of videos about stigma and Online dating.

Here’s a small view on the public opinion


Cyber bullying

This Group did an amazing job. They definitely brought good awareness that bullying is looked over, and people nowadays ignore it. Now, I agree bullying is wrong, but with this group I thought they  were losing focus from bullying off the web to cyber bullying. Interesting things they could use. Online gaming has a lot of bullying, and I’d know because I’ve seen it a lot.

I brought up a website as an example during class, and interestingly the website was taken down by a court order, which I didn’t even know about. To explain. The site was like a way significant others who got a bad break could get even, and post all their nude photos up of them.

I remember a vid of dancers who, were made fun of on the web. It’s actually pretty funny. After this presentation and re-watching it, I saw that we do overlook cyber bullying, I was laughing the entire time reading the comments, it was then I realized that bullying is really overlooked. Society needs a wake up call.


Internet on the mobile web

To start. I was told I was wrong about it being illegal jail breaking an iPad. I did research again, and found out I was actually right.

Go to that website. I could put up more websites, and it’s ok to jail break an iPod, or iPhone, but that’s not the case for an iPad.

Besides proving I was right, I like the presentation they had, I’d say to not rely so much on the social aspect of it, but more of the creative uses of it. If you look back to creative consumption, would it be better to have the mobile web, or just use the computer? Is it actually worth it to people to use. I said earlier 20% of people in the U.S don’t use the internet. If The mobile web is such a great thing now, then why aren’t people using it?


Lawrence Lessing talks a lot about if we take someone’s idea to consult them first vs just not taking their idea at at all. It makes me think of this youtube video of a random college student, who got bored, and “remixed” a song called tits out for ya boys.  When I first heard the song I initially thought he made it, but then I read the comments and someone said that he stole the lyrics from another song by the same name. I looked up the song and it was true. We sometimes let other people’s idea pass as our own. The college student made  different background music than the original, which was techno. Here’s a vid of it.

The future of communication

Communication through time has changed a lot. We first got the telephone and spoke to people by long distance message, then we got text messages, now we have smart phones that have have Facebook, snapchat, twitter, and instagram.  On a formal scale we had other methods of calling people, video calls like FaceTime.

What’s next?

I think we might have something like hologram communication or maybe even group video calls  on phones. There’s a lot of barriers to shatter when it comes to technology. We’ve done a lot so far. I used to think instant messaging was the greatest thing ever invented and then I got Skype. If anything with the communication we have now like phones I think they will make it more simple to the point you don’t even need a phone number.

I think there’s more barriers to break that we can’t even think of.

Social on the Net

Social Consequences by James Everett Katz and Ronald E Rice. What I can say about this book is basically the do’s and don’ts on the web in a social environment, but not only does it talk about that, it discusses the multiple uses of the web over the years.  In chapter 2, I read about the ethics behind internet use, and it discusses are you not making bad post, are you not hacking, are you downloading music illegally.

It’s a good read. What is the internet to us over these years?  Are we gonna use the internet more efficiently over the years? Only time will tell.


There’s an interesting book I skimmed called the internet hack by Kenneth Einer Himma.  There’s a lot of interesting things I found in this book. In the first chapter, section 2 it makes assumptions of why do people hack? There actually is no concrete answer. Psychologist have tried to answer this question as the person has a bad social skills. In chapter 11 you will see the dangers in from hacking, and ways to be secured. Outsmart the hacker before the hacker outsmarts you.

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